Sunday 29 April 2012

On being Grateful

As they say that no one is perfect, life is also messy. Everyone knows that I am a single mom. Some may see it as something negative, others may just be casual about it. I've learned that no matter what happens or how bad it seems today, life goes on and it will be better if not tomorrow, the day after. Despite of my current disposition in life, I am still thankful for so many things.


So what are the things that I appreciate about my single mommyhood? 


1. Addy
Of course, I am very thankful to have my wonderful son. He is my strength and happiness. He completes me. He is the very reason why I want to wake up each morning. He may test my patience most of the time, but his sweet gestures never fails to melt my heart.


2. My Parents
They are my co-parents in raising Addy. I can never thank my parents for helping me deal with Addy. Their unconditional love for me and Addy is something that I can only repay by unconditional love, respect and care. 


3. My Grandparents
I love my Grandparents! I am very thankful that they were able to see and spend time with Addy. I appreciate all the life lessons that they are teaching me and my son. 


4. Family
I will always be grateful for my biggest support group; my extended family. They are also my co-parents to Addy. They are the one who uplifts my spirit when I am down. 


5. Cousins
Since I am an only child, I treat my cousins as my own siblings. Age doesn't matter to us. I also ask advice from my younger cousins and vice versa. I am thankful for having siblings by heart :)


6. Work
Being a single mom is pretty expensive because I am the only one working to give Addy whatever he needs. I am thankful to have a wonderful career at the moment. I am thankful also because my colleagues are very nice. Also, I have a wonderful boss who understands my situation. I am in a family-oriented company who gives importance to child's welfare.


7. Community
I will always be grateful for being part of a community called Light Of Jesus. They are my second family. This is where I feed my soul with sumptuous words of God. This is where I also draw strength. This is another place where I can be the vulnerable me. This is where I found myself again, love myself again. This is also where I learned to forgive, not just those who have done me wrong, but most importantly, Myself.


8. Friends
True friends are hard to find. I may have a few friends, but I know, I have the real ones. 
I don't need to pretend someone that I am not. They tell me when I am wrong, but they also just listen when I don't want to speak. They respect my privacy. They also respect and understand at times when I need space. 
  

Life is about second chances. May it be in life in general, friends, love or career. 
I've learned that making a living is different from making a life.
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be the one. 
I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, people will forget what material things you gave, but people will never forget how you made them feel.


We have the natural tendency to unconsciously take things and even people for granted. We wait for wake-up calls in our lives to occur before we realize how blessed we are. Practicing daily gratitude keeps us on the path of being present, helps us acknowledge the gifts we have already been blessed with, and cultivates positive thinking. Don’t wait until it’s too late. We must always remember that the highest appreciation is not to utter words but to live by them.


Open your heart, find different ways to show gratitude and take this opportunity to incorporate the practice of daily gratitude!