Daddy Ato

God saw you getting tired
and a cure was not meant to be,
So he put his arms around you
and whispered "Come to Me".
With tearful eyes we watched you,
as we saw you pass away.
Although we loved you deeply,
we could not make you stay.
Your Golden Heart stopped beating,
hard working hands at rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us,
He only takes the best. 

When those we love go away, they never really leave us; they are with us now, wherever we are. Those whom we have cherished, live on forever, for love wraps itself around the heart. Although it's difficult now, someday beyond our tears and all the world's wrongs; beyond the clouds and all that we can see and touch,we shall all understand.

No matter where Daddy Ato is right now, He is happy because finally, he's HOME

Double Parents

I've often wondered why mothers without parenting partners were christened "single moms" when, in truth; they are "double parents." And if the term "single" is to imply marital status, then a large group of these "double parents" have sadly been overlooked. It is not the ring on your finger that gives your children a dad, but his willingness to be a part of the parenting process.

To be a single mom is to be strong, beautiful, courageous, eager, smart, and quick-thinking. You don't get much sleep, or much time for yourself. There’s the 12 AM bad dream and the 3 AM cries for a ba ba. There are the temper tantrums when you take away the slobbery telephone or remote control. Oh, and let's not forget those times your baby will crawl away, stick something in his mouth, and you turn around and don't have any idea where he went!

Being a single mom is a hard job, almost a career, even. Only the strong-willed survive the world of single parenting. And a little bit of help from the grandparents is always nice. But to be a single parent is to be a hero in your child's eyes. To look into that beautiful little face and see the biggest smile in the world, just for that cookie or turning on that movie, it is the greatest feeling in the world that cannot be matched or topped by any other thing. To see your little one takes his first steps and to know that nobody helped him get that far but you is ABSOLUTELY REWARDING

It’s a hard work being a single mother, the stigma that is attached, the feeling that the minute you let your guard down you will be attacked for your lack of moral fiber. But it is rare someone sets out to be a lone parent. I would love a good role model for my children, an everyday example of intelligent, sensitive maleness. But until that day, I hope they see what I am trying to do. 

I will never hate Addy’s father. To hate him is to hate a part of Addy. I want to teach Addy not to hate anybody. He will be allowed to talk about his feelings, but he will be required to do so respectfully. I want to teach Addy the value of respect for adults (even those he didn’t agree with), but most importantly, RESPECT FOR HIMSELF.

I know, I don’t have to tell Addy everything, but I will certainly tell him the TRUTH. I will let him to see things for himself in his own time.

Mommy Ley and Baby Addy= HAPPY FAMILY

La Bella Vitta

Mi Bella Vita.. Yes, My beautiful life.. not perfect.. but beautiful..

Some people are probably wondering how a young 26 year-old womanl, a single mom can still say how her life is so beautiful even if she got pregnant,unmarried and now trying to survive the motherhood alone. I thought about that before, when I first found out I was pregnant, I had a good life then, I had a job, my own room, my family, my own car plus i get to spend my money whichever way I want to and go out whenever I feel like it.

After the so called "moment of truth" somehow i felt alone and insecure because i know from that day forward i have to face everything alone. of course my family and friends are always there to support me but at the back of my mind, i can't help it but wonder how am i supposed to give my child a good life since it will be just the two of us? how am i going to explain to him what happened?  how am i going to explain to him how come we have an incomplete family? most of all what am i going to say if he asked where his dad is? For nine months, i tried my best not to think of negative thoughts so that my baby will not be affected but it is hard...really hard to pretend that everything is alright. good thing i have my friends and family around me.

So how can I say my life is beautiful? well it’s really what you make out of it. after seeing my son for the first time, right then and there i knew that everything is worth it! my 9 months plus 18hours of labor are all worth it. seeing him gives me more strength to fight and continue with our life. now I realized that i am happier with my life, it’s more than just getting to go out whenever or partying all night. I learned that success and true happiness is living your life the way you wanted to and being with the most important people in your life. I realized that most people search forever for that one person they wanna be with forever, i may be a single mom but i am with my one and only man (next to my dad) that i want to spend my life with: MY SON. MY ADDY.

I’ve been happy many times in my life, specially when i was young, but now, i’m entering this new chapter of my life with a smile. i may be a single mom, unmarried but who cares, i have my special joy, my angel, my protector, my son. he made everything seems alright. i know we still have to undergo a lot but having my family and friends around me, i know my son and i can do this.

i may be a single mom but i am happy because i have what i have always wanted: my own child, a loving family and friends that will be always there for us.. and if that's not happiness for others.. then tell me.. what is happiness?

First Christmas Letter For Addy

Christmas is a time of sharing, giving and forgiving. It is the time for the family to be complete. I have been waiting for this day to came, since it’s my precious Addy’s first Christmas. Addy’s Christmas may not be perfect, but still it is full of love and peace. Despite all of my worries and fears, I know in time Addy can say that his First Christmas is still the greatest…Addy can still say that his First Christmas is still perfect because he’s with mommy I am doing my best to provide you with that, but there are things that I have come to realize that you will have to find for yourself. I can only tell you about them.

LOVE AND AFFECTION 
I have loved you from the very first time that I realized that I m carrying you in my womb. My heart filled with joy at each flutter and kick. Then, when you were born, I used to hold you in my arms and rock you to sleep while singing whatever sweet tune filled my heart. I have tried to show you with every breath how much you mean to me. I have tried to give you affection and attention every day of your life. i will never get tired of loving you Addy. You keep mommy alive. You are the one who gives me thousands of reasons to wake up each morning and go to work. 

PROBLEMS IN LIFE
I have never been the best at problem solving. I have never been one that would stand up for myself when I should have. I let my problems get me down, but I will try to teach you to be different from me. I want you to be strong, independent and confident. I want you to be better and bolder than I ever could have been, That way, when problems come into you life, you will be able to handle them with honor and decency. I want that for you.

FOLLOW YOUR DREAM 
Whatever inspires you in life, go for it. Don't let any one tell you that you cannot reach your stars. If they were unreachable, they would not be yours. Just please be realistic about your hopes and dreams. Your dreams are not going to fall in your lap. You will have to work hard to achieve them, but don't give up. Don't lose faith in yourself. Whatever it is that you want in life, you can have. You just have to believe that you are worthy to have it and don't be afraid to go after it. mommy will always be by your side honey to help you, give you moral support for you to achieve your aspirations in life 


LOVE AND HAPPINESS
I wish nothing but love and peace in your life. I know that they will not always come, but know that it is possible. When you are old enough to find that special someone in life that you want to share all of your hopes and dreams, failures and successes, and laughter and tears with, hold on to them. True love is fading away in this world. If fate leads you to it, don't be afraid to take it and hold on to it. i want you to grow up as a true gentleman.


BE YOUR OWN PEOPLE 
Never let anyone force you into being someone that you are not. Be who you are. Remember that you were born in love and you grew up in love and that is the path that you should follow. Find you strengths and don't be ashamed of your weaknesses. Hold your head up high. 

TAKE IT WITH A GRAIN OF SALT
Believe me honey, there will always be someone in life that will treat you wrong. Take it with a grain of salt. It may leave a bitter taste in your mouth, but you can always spit it out later. Don't let anger and hatred take you to places that you don't want to go. If you fill yourself with these negative emotions, then you leave little or no room for any thing positive.

REMEMBER THAT MOMMY LOVES YOU
Whatever and wherever you go in life, ALWAYS remember that I LOVE YOU. If there was one thing that I could do in life to shield you from one day's harm,I would do it without hesitation. I would lay down my life just to make you smile- if that's what it would take. I have struggled and sacrificed every day just to keep you happy and safe, and if I were able to go back and start my life again, despite our situation now, I WOULD NOT CHANGE A THING. I would gladly do it all over again for you. You are my reasons for getting up in the morning. You are reasons for trying so hard to in life. Without, I would have no one to love. I just hope that you love me at least a little. ALWAYS remember that i am trying my best to be a good mom and dad to you. 

Well, that is all that I have to say for now. I hope that you read my words and know that you are loved. I hope that the joys that you have given me life, come back to you ten fold, and that the sorrows that I have faced, never come to you. These are words from my heart to yours. Take them in and keep them in a special place inside of you. You are my world Addy. I love you no matter what you do or where you may end up going in life. I am not ashamed of you. i am not ashamed of what we are right now. I am proud to have you. I have one beautiful son. I have a loving son. i know one day you will understand, and i hope when that day comes, you will also say that you love me too..

Will love you always,